Wilmington - March of Dimes - Chef's Auction 11/7/09

This past month, Aimee and I had the opportunity to share Kayleigh's story with Wilmingtons WECT News Station Leading Anchor, Kim Ratcliff. Kim is on the morning news and Jesse from Time Warner Cable, came out to shoot a video at our home in Wrightsville Beach. Our video along with another family's story was shown this past weekend at the March of Dimes (Chef's Auction) event here in Wilmington.

It was awesome, emotional and just so much fun! They had two tents set up with one room filled with great food from some of the top Chef's in Wilmington. They also has a silent auction with so many wonderful gifts, trips and spas. I bid on a signed ECU football helmet to give to one of my brothers, but I was outbidded. However, I guess God was looking out for what would have been a hard decision because both of my brother's went to ECU and would have loved the helmet in their home on display. (lol)

In the other room were tables to sit at with a live band playing, and it is also where they held the live auction and shared our video. The whole event was set up really nice. Aimee actually went over in the morning for a few hours to help with the set up while I hung out at the house with the kids.

We are so thankful for Jordan and Michelle, who are the two leaders in charge of the March of Dimes here in Wilmington. They worked really hard to organize this event and it showed. Thank you guys for everything you have done!

Also, thank you Kim and Jesse for all of the efforts you put in to the making the video. There was not a dry eye in the house. Here is the video for you all to see. Unfortunately, I was not able to get the video to download on blogger for some odd reason, so I have attached a link for you to download it on YouSendIt. CLICK HERE to download the video.

Aimee and I are so blessed to be apart of the March of Dimes here and we look forward to helping out anyway we can in the future.

Thank you all so much!

God Bless,

2nd Annual Preemie Onesie Drive

Hello everyone,

Our good friends Rachel and Ryan are at it again and looking to make another huge success with their preemie onesie drive. Last year was phenominal and this year will be too, but we all need your help. I am letting Rachel take over and tell you all about what is going on...

Hello Everyone!!! We are holding the 2nd annual preemie onesie drive being held by me (Rachel) and Ryan. We are collecting preemie onesies and other preemie clothing to donate to the babies that are staying in the NICU (neonatal intensive care unit).

Ryan and I had our first daughter Carly in the NICU for 4 months before passing away from a heart defect. I know as well as other preemie parents of children in the NICU know that it's hard for your child to be there. It's hard in many ways. It's hard as far as gas is concerned because of the many daily trips to the hospital. Most of the time having a child in the NICU comes as a surprise. Parents are normally not prepared for such an early delivery. With not being prepared comes not having clothing to fit a child who is so small. A lot of times one of the parents (usually the moms) quit working to be at the hospital with their child as much as possible. This makes funds tight. Paying bills can become a struggle, and it makes it hard to buy your new little one the cute outfits that moms want to see their child in.

So, this is why I'm having this preemie onesie drive. To give to those parents who's world has been turned upside down. To help them along their way in their struggle. To help parents enjoy seeing their little boy or girl dressed in a cute outfit. Carly got a cute outfit while she was in the NICU as a anonymous donation. It made me feel completely blessed. It was nice for someone to do this for her. Being in the NICU is a very stressful time. Some are only there for days while others are there for months and even over a year. Simple acts of kindness fills peoples hearts with happiness. I'm doing this donation in memory of Carly who passed away on 3/9/08. I will deliver the donated onesies on 3/9/10.

When I started this drive last year I had a goal of 200. As March got closer and closer I realized I was going to go over my goal. By 3/9/09 I had collected OVER 2,000 items! This drive was truly blessed. We not only were able to donate to Levine Children's Hospital on the 9th of March, we were also able to donate to 5 other NICU's in NC. Every 3 months after March 9th I have donated MORE clothing to Levine Children's Hospital. I have one last donation to make this year in December. Let's come together in prayer and support and make this up coming year as big of a success as this past year. Please tell everyone you know to help spread the word as far as possible.

So please lets come together and help me to gather the needed onesies to donate to the NICU that my sweet Carly was at (Levine Children's Hospital). We will be having collections at my church and other local churches. If you would rather donate monetary donations you can do so at the top of my blog. The funds received will go toward the purchase of preemie onesies. The NICU houses nearly 100 babies. This fluctuates from time to time. Also they have an NPCN (neonatal progressive care nursery). And this unit holds about 60 babies maybe more. I hope to raise enough to donate to both the NICU and NPCN. So tell everyone you know to help me reach my goal by 3/9/10.


Ways you can become involved.....

1. You can mail donated preemie onesies

2. You can donate money to go toward the purchase of new preemie onesies. Just click on the donate button at the top of my blog. http://preemieonesiedrive.blogspot.com

3. You can place a flyer in your church, staff break room at your job, or local businesses with a box to help gather donations and mail them to the PO Box. (If you gather a large donation I will gladly pay for shipping).


**I will make a flyer and send it to your email to print if you would like to help in that way.


I will keep updated post on onesies received.
If you have any questions please feel free to ask.
You can reach me at carlynicoleelliotte@gmail.com

Thanks for your help and participation,

Rachel and Ryan

Womens Marriage Ministry



Listening to what God is trying to tell us is very difficult sometimes, but then sometimes it can't be anymore clearer, as if it were written on a neon sign right outside your window. When you feel strongly in your heart that what you want to do is honoring God and is filled with complete love for others, then it is definitely a blinking neon sign.

Aimee has always had gifts that were given to her straight from God and I always knew that one day, she would be able to use those gifts to help others in a mighty way. Those wonderful gifts God gave Aimee consist of a highly intelligent mind, filled with quick thoughts to problem solve ideas quicker than anyone I've ever met. If it weren't for Aimee, I would not be the man that I am today because of the great tools she has taught me in life.

God also blessed Aimee with a beautiful heart, filled with love to always want to make things better for everyone else, even when her own family life was a struggle. Aimee was hard at work, helping friends or family in their personal struggles, even when our precious Kayleigh was having bad days, work was upside down, bills piled up and our house was slipping away. No matter what, Aimee was there for those who needed her.

Last but not least, God blessed Aimee with a forgiving heart and if it weren't for Jesus forgiving us for our sins, Aimee would have never forgiven me for so many things. She forgave me though, loved me with her beautiful heart and taught me ways to be a true and honorable man. These gifts were a blessing to not only Aimee, but to everyone who comes in contact with her.

She has decided to take these gifts and create a marriage ministry to reach out and help ALL EARS who will listen. The blog was created for women for a certain purpose, but it is for everyone who needs the help. If you are an honorable man, who isn't ashamed to ask for help, email Aimee or myself as we will never turn a soul away from God's advice. If you are a non-believer, please don't feel like we are speaking to only Christians and that you are not welcome. That is a bunch of mess because we are here for EVERYONE!

Speaking of EVERYONE, this marriage ministry is not just for those who are having marital issues, it is also for those are dating, someone who has close friends, or even single because it will prepare you for the next step. Even if your marriage is perfect and you have never had an issue in your life, EVERYONE can learn something new to help them grow in their relationships.

Aimee posted her first post tonight on the blog and would like for everyone to take up the 14 day challenge. To learn more about it and a little history on what drove us to lend a helping hand to others, click on the link after you read this prayer.

"God, Thank you so much for all the blessings and gifts you have given to us. We are all made differently, Lord, in Your perfect image. I pray that you will speak loudly to those who are finding a purpose in their own lives to honor You. Please guide Aimee through her spiritual calling to help others in their marriage, relationships, and friendships. Lord, Aimee nor myself are experts or have a degree, but you have given us life experiences to learn from and share to others. However, no amount of educating our flesh can guide us any wiser than You can through your teachings. So, we pray you will strengthen our hearts beyond the great love they already feel for others, lead us with a patient mind, and speak through us as we start this journey to help anyone and everyone who needs to listen.

In your precious name, Amen"


To start your incredibly amazing journey, click here - Women's Marriage Ministry

Freeman Family Weekend



This past weekend was such a wonderful time for us. We drove up to Raleigh to visit my oldest brother Scott and his family. Scott and Rebecca have three children, Julia, Jason and Penelope. So needless to say, Brandon and Allyson had such a great time playing with their cousins.

On Saturday, Julia had a swim meet and she did such a great job, especially when she was competing against other children who were older than she was. Both Aimee and I were very proud of her and we hope that she continues to work hard and excel at swimming. I also noticed that Julia has been getting fantastic grades in school landing her either on the A honor roll or A/B honor roll each quarter. Woo hoo! That is so wonderful!

Jason (J-Dog) is a stud muffin! He and Brandon had such a enjoyable weekend being boys. They played video games and jumped on the trampoline even when it was cold outside. Boys will be boys! I am so glad they are so close in age and as I have a cousin who I grew up real close with, I can see this relationship doing just the same. They are two wonder-hand-ful boys! Can't you tell?





Penelope is A-D-O-R-A-B-L-E!!! I had to share this story with you all for the soul purpose of sharing back with Penelope when she gets older. We were driving home from the swim meet and I had some Spree hard candies that I love so much and was enjoying every bit of their sweet taste.

Sweet P, as we call her, had asked for some Sprees and I had shared a few here and there until she asked for ALL of them. I told her that I could not give her ALL of them, but that I would share a few.

Next thing I know, she laid a pen next to me on the center console. I said to her, "Is this a gift for me?" I looked through the rear view mirror to see a simple nod of the head and a smile on her face. Now, before I go any further with this story, you must know the pen read "Lifepoint" on it. Lifepoint is a church that we attend in Wilmington.

So...I said, "Thank you sweetheart, that was very kind of you." Before I could get my response out, she blurted, "Now can I have the Sprees?" Aimee and I busted out with laughter. I decided to ask Penelope where she got this gift for me and she stated that she found it in this seat.

Still laughing our butts off, I said to Penelope, "So, you found this pen in your seat, in my car, and gave it to me as a gift?" Penelope then said, "No, I found it in my house." Confused now, I said, "But you just told me you found it in the seat in my car"

"I lied" she said. LOL

Here is Miss Little "Sweet P"





The things kids do and say for candy these days are hilarious! And by the way, mean Uncle Adam has a hard time sharing ALL of his candy because he is spoiled. lol

Another reason we planned the trip to Raleigh as to cheer on our four fighters from Evolution Mixed Martial Arts.
For those who didn't know, I trained in Jiu Jitsu and MMA in Charlotte for a year before Kayleigh was born, took a year off, and then started training again. I competed in a grappling tournament a couple weeks before Kayleigh was born and you can see that my last post on that blog was that tournament. CLICK HERE to see that post and video.

Anyhow, after Kayleigh had went to Heaven, I made an effort to get back in to training and continue my quest to fight in the cage. When I chose Wilmington, I made sure there was a great camp to train at and I couldn't ask for a better team to be a part of. Team Evolution was brought to Wrightsville Beach from Hilo Hawaii by Jeremy Owens. Jeremy and a few other guys who trained in Hawaii under Renato "Charuto" Verissimo who is the Jiu Jitsu coach and teammate to the greatest 155lb fighter, BJ Penn (UFC Lightweight Champion of the World). I had the ultimate pleasure of meeting Charuto and trained with him at Evolution last week.

Now that I have been training hard for the past several months, I have been able to impress some of the current fighters enough to land an opportunity to fight in February at the Schwartz Center here in Wilmington, NC. It will be my first amateur fight, but my ultimate goal is to win 5 amateur fights to gain my pro status. You can view the website at Carolina Fight Promotions . So, I have to stay healthy and train hard over the next four months to pull out a victory.

Getting back on track...we went to Raleigh to cheer our fighters on. George, Grant, Simon and Jon were all fighting. George and Simon both pulled out a win and Grant lost by decision to the hometown kid. Everyone felt it should have gone Grant's way, but you just can't leave it up to the judges or stuff like that will happen. Jon, which is our 5-1 pro fighter, was injured in a last second submission attempt after the bell had rung by the other opponent. It was unfortunate that he was hurt and couldn't continue, but I heard that his knee will be fine and he will be fighting again soon.

We had a great time going to see the fights at the RBC Center in Raleigh where the Carolina Hurricanes play. It was a big venue, but excited me even more to know that I could be fighting there in the near future. With hard work and dedication, anything is possible. I know that I have a good team to train with who have been very successful.

Other than the swim meet and the fights, we all hung out and enjoyed our time together. One thing I am so thankful for is our family. We are truly lucky to have the love and support that we have. Thank you Lord for blessing me with such a wonderful family.

God Bless,

Feelings Follow Choices



Before I start my post tonight, I want you to sit back and really think about what I am saying here. You may be dealing with this in your life in one way or another and this could seriously help you make things better. It most definitely did for Aimee and I, and it really didn't take a lot of work to fix what had been broken.

Aimee and I know some people who are dealing with marital issues right now and this post is for them. Although, this information is also great for those who aren't having issues or don't think they are having issues as we all need to strive to be better people. You may find this helpful to share this to someone you personally know who may need to hear it.

A little while back, I posted briefly about Aimee and I were having some troubles in our marriage but that everything is back on track. I spoke about how my choices started to follow my feelings, which was completely backwards, causing me to swerve off track in my life. Just as Brent Riggs mentioned to me before, you can't lead with your caboose (aka feelings) or your engine (aka decisions) will run off the track in the wrong direction.

Whether or not Aimee or myself were at fault for the things we did to get us from point A to point B, I realized that the negative feelings were controlling my decisions. I didn't want to deal with the pain, the anger, the sadness and mostly, the fear of these negative feelings going on forever and ever. I wanted out! I wanted the easy route! I wanted to go where the grass was greener! I wanted to start over!

I wanted all these things because I was SELFISH! I made a promise to my wife when I asked her to marry me. I made a promise to my family when I married her and I made all these promises right in front of God. Oh, but a promise can be broken. Oh, but I will ask God to forgive me for this divorce and I promise not to do it again so that will be okay. Oh, but no one understands what I have to live with and life would be so much better if we weren't together. Oh, the kids will be okay and they will still get to see me. Oh, but I never loved her in the first place. Excuses! Excuses! Excuses!

I made all the excuses and I look back on them now and I was trying to convince myself only to make me feel better for the wrong thing I knew I was doing. Aimee may not be perfect and I may not be perfect, but I know that I was attracted to her enough to ask her for her number. I knew that I once laughed for hours without a single argument. I knew that I once tried to go out of my way to impress her so she would think I am not like all the other men. I knew that I once told her I loved her and I felt the love in my heart when I said it to her without being forced. I knew that I once couldn't wait to spend every waking hour with her, cuddle with her, and give her long, wet kisses that beat all the motion picture awards for "Best Kiss."

Most importantly, I knew that I wanted to spend forever with her when I got on my knee and asked her to marry me. I knew that I wanted to share forever with her when I agreed to have a child that I would have to help raise as a team. So, for making negative excuses against all of this love I knew I once felt was completely letting my feelings run my decisions.

When I wake up in the morning, I brush my teeth, wash my face and put on some deodorant. I do this because it is a routine for me, but mainly because I don't want to completely scare away my clients with goops of eye boogers, rotten breath that stinks just as bad or worse as the onion patch growing under my arms. Not everyone, including myself, really enjoys doing any of these routines, but we do it anyway. My point is that we are choosing to do something regardless of how we feel about it and not to mention that we probably have a lot more people who like us because we do it.

The whole point that I am getting at, which turned my life right-side-up, is that I chose to do something that wasn't led by my feelings and wasn't really what I "felt" I wanted to do at that time. I know God put us together for a reason and He wouldn't let two souls get married if they weren't supposed to be married. Besides our salvation, marriage is one of the most important things. I made many decisions in my life that I felt were right and maybe some of them were wrong, but we NEVER make the wrong decision to marry someone because we love them.

To give love, you must feel love. If you resist being selfish, forgive easily, know this world is not perfect, and go out of your way to do the right things for your husband/wife, that lost feeling of love will find its way home very quickly. God gave us this greatest gift for a reason and it was not to be selfish and love ourselves only to make ourselves feel happy, but to love others unconditionally so that they can see and feel how amazing this gift truly is.

I had moved out and I had started over. I felt the world was a better place for making the decision that I did and my life felt like it was going in the right direction, but the devil is so deceiving. I am not ashamed to speak my faults to the world, but I was dead wrong.

Aimee and I are happier now than ever before. We understand each other more for having gone through this. We both show each other love and respect, and now we go out of our ways to mold our lives to fulfill each others needs.


Summing it all up in to 3 parts:

1. Remember that you once made a decision to be married because you loved one another or you were at least attracted to each other at some point to engage in a relationship.

2. Lead with your choices and your feelings will follow, but of course you have to make choices that are with a pure heart and without sin.

3. Know that you are not perfect and neither is your spouse, but forgiveness is key and you must give love and respect in order to receive love and respect. You can never give love and respect to your wife/husband/children with a selfish heart that focuses on your own feelings.



Aimee and I will be praying endlessly for those who are struggling to fix their marriages. Just know that we are not experts in anyway, shape or form, but that we love you all and we pray that we were able to help you with our situation in one way or another.

God made men a special way in a "blue" color and woman a special way in a "pink" color that when you join them together it makes purple. Purple is the color of royalty and a husband and wife are joined together in God's beautiful image. There was no mistake when He blessed us with marriage, so leading with God as our engine, the caboose will always be on track. Let your feelings follow your choices!

Brent, thank you for giving me the best advice and allowing me to use it to help others. You are a blessing to me and my family.

God Bless,